Here it is. The moment you have all been waiting for. Drum roll. Trumpets. Saxophone. The red carpet. Wedding planning from the groom’s point of view! Without further ado, I present to you Emin...
Hello everyone! My name is Emin and I am Manifa’s fiancé. Writing is not exactly my forte per-say, but hopefully I can provide good insight on a man’s perspective when it comes to wedding planning.
I can start off by saying, I don’t know where to start. What topic? What event? When and where? I honestly didn’t know that so much goes into wedding planning. It all seemed as though a wedding would consist of one big scheme. Lo and behold there are a million and five things to consider, plan, and execute.
Getting married was never really on my to-do list. Something about the idea of committing to one person was actually quite frightening. The notion of spending your entire life with one individual is not what most men would consider appealing. However, there comes a time in life when you are presented with an opportunity that you just can’t pass on. Life takes its course and we make the best decision at that given time. For me, that opportunity and time was when I met Manifa.
After ten years of solid friendship, I knew Manifa was the person I could spend the rest of my life with. When I realized that she was the one who could make me a better person, I decided it was time to pop the question every girl dreams about. Given her wish list for a ring, provided by my fiancé, I knew I had to do everything in my power to get her what she wanted. When I presented the idea to my family, my sister quickly recommended Capri Jewelry for the ring. Working with Claude was extremely easy. He understood what I wanted and was able to create the perfect ring for Manifa.
Planning the proposal however, wasn’t as stress-free. I thought about it for several weeks, and came up with numerous ideas. I tried to do something that matched our personalities and interests. My proposal idea actually came to me right before I was going to bed. As you all know, I proposed at her house while playing blackjack and smoking hookah. It was certainly a success! I really wanted the idea to be original and at the same time make it a surprise. Manifa is one of the most FOOZOOL girls I have ever met so catching her off guard wasn’t easy. My original plan was to propose up Angeles Crest at a nice view, but the sneaky girl caught wind of it and I had to abandon the idea. And the rest, is history.
After the proposal, wedding planning began. We sat down at a hookah lounge and brainstormed various vendors we needed to hire. From the DJ to the Photographer, to the invitations and guests, Manifa started and didn’t stop. It is a bit overwhelming to hear so much information all at once. I kind of wanted it to be over before it began. As we dug deeper and deeper into our vendor quest, everything started to fall into place. Considering that we had a two-year span to plan everything, it became mentally easier to coordinate. Without a doubt our easiest selections were our photographer, DJ, and videographer. Everything else on the other hand… not so simple. For example, for two weeks, Manifa dragged me to countless reception venues and at the end of it she ended up wanting the first one we visited. The process might be long, but I am enjoying the hunt for the best vendors.
With wedding planning, the stresses are real and the time consumption is unreal. Who knew that hundreds of hours of planning go into just one day of fun? As crazy as it seems, I actually became more involved as time went by. Luckily, Manifa has a real talent for wedding planning. She organizes everything into a binder that includes all the vendors, contracts, and even charts and graphs showing our budget vs. expenses. She is ALL OVER IT! Now, we have had some differences of opinion, but we have always come to one shared understanding. I guess that is what I find so beautiful in the entire process. From idea to planning, planning to execution.
As the big day comes together, you get more drawn into the overall goal; spending the rest of your life with the person you love. It never occurred to me that wedding planning is the first insight to how your relationship as a married couple will be. I have learned a lot about myself and Manifa, and we have grown together during the first steps of our lives. I can say that the most valuable lesson that can be learned here: give 30% effort and let the woman do the rest. JUST KIDDING! Give 49%! At the end of the day there is more of her dreams to be fulfilled than my own. So, it is more important to ensure that she gets the wedding she’s always wished for. For all the men reading this now, who plan on going through this only ONCE like myself, participate but don’t overdo, assist but don’t take the reins, and pull out your wallet only if you are on board yourself. The big day belongs to both the bride and groom. Make your life decisions together and in return life will treat you well.
As I mentioned earlier, writing isn’t my forte; after 58 minutes of writing a page and a half, I am done. Good luck, and as Manifa says, “Happy Planning.”
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